TRAINING BJJ AS A MOM

TRAINING BJJ AS A MOM

The last few years have seen a surge in those deciding to practice a martial art. I mean, who doesn’t enjoy watching a good fight…and fighting? Almost two years ago, I started doing something I never even had given a thought…training Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I didn’t grow up doing too many active things. I stuck with music. It’s what I was really good at, and I was honestly a really awkward kid. I’m less awkward as an adult (my husband likes to take full credit for that). Training martial arts (of any kind would be a big challenge for me.)

DECIDING WHAT TO TRAIN

Joe started throwing around the idea of me training some type of martial art, BJJ honestly just sounded cool to me. So I gave it a shot…and got hooked quickly. It works my mind and body and challenges me every single class with a new tidbit of information. I LOVE IT! But as a mom, like anything else, it can get frustrating.

FRUSTRATIONS IN BJJ TRAINING (TOTALLY NORMAL, BTW)

Sometimes, just like any white belt or any time a new move is introduced to anyone of any level…it can take me a little time to pick up. And sometimes this really frustrates me. Sometimes the other guys seem to pick up new things so quickly, and here I am really overthinking the move and getting caught in the fact that I can’t do it as well or as smoothly.

Then the other day during class, my coach could tell I was frustrated, and I shared that I was and then asked my partner how often he trained. My partner’s response was that he was able to train about five days a week.

WELL, THAT WOULD BE AWESOME

All I could think? “Ugh! Man, I’d love to train five times a week!” As a mom, I just can’t do it. I have to drag the kids around with me every time I step foot into the gym. It’s not fun for them, and as it is, the days I do train we are there for almost four hours straight. I don’t think that’s fair to them, plus, I can’t expect them to get up early every single day of the week and watch me train when I really need to be working with them on school and the other days of the week I’m getting them up for therapy and co-op. It’s just not going to happen now…Then that made me think more…

IT WOULD BE COOL TO BE  MAN SOME DAYS

Wouldn’t it be nice to be a man? I’m not a fema-nazi, but really, it would be nice for someone to do all the things for me so that I could train five days a week…or do anything for myself. I don’t say this for pity or for any other reason than to say, it would just be nice to be able to do what I want to do when I want to do it…I know one day I won’t have these precious souls to take care of every waking moment (and then I’ll be sad I don’t), but sometimes, it really would be nice.

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MAKING TIME FOR TRAINING

With anything fitness related, I know you have to make time, and I have. Training martial arts is honestly really hard. Staying until the last class of the night so I can train with three tired and cranky kids isn’t easy. (I’d rather be up in the morning, but getting kids out the door first thing results in lots of yelling most days…and I’m just not willing to do that…for my sanity…and their little hearts.) I get to train two days a week in a class, and there’s an open mat I attend on Saturdays. What originally was supposed to be for me has turned into a family event. I love that my boys are training. Makes me super excited and we have something we can do together. We also all train together on Saturday…so no more “me time” for mom.

 

I’m kind of torn on how to feel about it all, but what I do know is I won’t stop training unless it’s no longer fun and challenging for me. I can’t imagine either one of those happening. I love the learning aspect as well as how it pushes my body.

TRAINING AS A MOM

It’s hard! But what I hope my kids see is their mom doing something that she loves, committing herself to it, and being disciplined enough to continue even when things aren’t “perfect”. Mama, you could literally apply this to anything…I just chose to apply it to BJJ (as well as many other things in my life). Mom doesn’t quit when things get hard, and she doesn’t quit just because there are a few obstacles. My next blog I’ll be sharing how I scaled back on our schedule to make things better for the kids…but really, all of us.

So until next time…

XO-

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