So, I’ve been trying to figure out what my first topic of 2020 should be and it’s this: military families and war time.


Why? Well, in case you missed it, our president took out an Iranian terrorist, and subsequently, we’ve deployed troops to the region. By now, you’ve seen the memes about how terrifying it is to hear “boots on the ground” when you have “skin in the game”. Now I’m not trying to be unkind here, but as an Army wife for almost 16 years (next month) I’ve sent my husband off to war…to be put on the front line…to knock down doors and kill terrorists. It’s literally what he signed up for. His mom sent him before he met me. It’s what he did. He was excited when he found out he was going to be deployed for the first time. He even got excited about deployments years into it…especially when he knew it would be a particularly active theatre.


*(Of course people sharing this meme or sharing their fear for the troops are military families…make sense. What I’ve seen some also share is that no one EXCEPT for military and their families should or could possibly have an opinion on it. Of course military families care the most…we do have our hearts out there, and it’s very real, however, to say we are the only ones who could or should have an opinion is wrong.)


We have been at war in the Middle East for almost two decades. We have been sending troops…this is not new. I guess it’s a new generation going to war. My husband is nearing the end of his military career (almost 20 years…this year), and we have a bunch of kids coming in. My husband was a kid when he went to war and faced evil for the first time. But it almost seems like people are forgetting that soldiers have to be soldiers.

Spouses are having to be strong and send their loved one over seas. Daddies and mamas are kissing their kids good bye. Parents are sending their young adults to do the job they signed up to do…I get it. I’ve cried, and even mourned. (Because you do mourn when you send your husband away to do scary things not knowing if he will return.) I totally get it.


But for hundreds of years, Americans have done this proudly. We don’t complain. We just “do”. And while I can appreciate concern for our troops (we personally pray for them every day), this is war. This is what we do. Military families in war time must be tough. We’re tough always, but particularly during times of war.

2004 Ranger Ball. The night we “got engaged”. We had been married for a few months.


Recognizing that I accept the life of a Ranger’s Wife, fully knowing the hardships ahead of me, I will always strive to uphold the honor, the loyalty, and the trust of my husband, the Ranger!

Acknowledging that a Ranger Wife is a more elite wife who stands behind her Ranger, wherever he may be, I accept the fact that as a Ranger Wife, my husband expects me to encourage and stand behind him always!

Never shall I fail my Ranger. I will always keep myself strong, brave, and faithful. I will shoulder more than my share of the responsibility, whatever it may be, one hundred percent and then some!

Gallantly will I show the world that I am a specially selected woman. My courtesy to my husband, neatness of appearance, and care of our family shall set the example for future wives to follow!

Energetically will I meet the demands of my Ranger. I shall stand by my man in peacetime and in war, knowing HE IS THE SUPERIOR SOLDIER. Never will I leave my Ranger for another, and under NO circumstances will I embarrass him!

Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to let my Ranger go, knowing he may never return to me– his Ranger Wife!!

Willingly will I let him go, not knowing where or for how long he will be gone, always hoping, praying and believing for his safe return and the safe return of his comrades!

Intensely will I wait for his return, anticipating the gallantry and honor– my Ranger, a hero, standing beside with pride and passion!

Forgoing all others needs except for those of my Ranger, knowing one day he will forgo all others for me– his Wife!

Enthusiastically will I carry on my daily routine, even when he’s away, never forgetting he left behind his strength, his honor, his heart, his Ranger Wife!



Recognizing that I volunteered as a Ranger, fully knowing the hazards of my chosen profession, I will always endeavor to uphold the prestige, honor, and high esprit de corps of my Ranger Regiment.

Acknowledging the fact that a Ranger is a more elite Soldier who arrives at the cutting edge of battle by land, sea, or air, I accept the fact that as a Ranger my country expects me to move further, faster and fight harder than any other Soldier.

Never shall I fail my comrades. I will always keep myself mentally alert, physically strong and morally straight and I will shoulder more than my share of the task whatever it may be, one-hundred-percent and then some.

Gallantly will I show the world that I am a specially selected and well-trained Soldier. My courtesy to superior officers, neatness of dress and care of equipment shall set the example for others to follow.

Energetically will I meet the enemies of my country. I shall defeat them on the field of battle for I am better trained and will fight with all my might. Surrender is not a Ranger word. I will never leave a fallen comrade to fall into the hands of the enemy and under no circumstances will I ever embarrass my country.

Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to fight on to the Ranger objective and complete the mission though I be the lone survivor.

Rangers lead the way!

receiving his bronze star with valor


If my husband could go again, he would. He’d do it in a heartbeat…but he’s kind of broken (thanks to what he did all those deployments ago and training). He’s also in a different type of position at this point. He has shared his knowledge and has helped to train those who would go now. But doing what he did I truly believe he was living his life’s purpose.

So…let’s be Americans. Let’s support our troops and their families, because they really do need it. But let’s not act like we’ve never deployed before because the truth is, deployments haven’t stopped in almost two decades. (That doesn’t even include what silent professionals are ALWAYS doing all around the world. Just remember that. There are ALWAYS troops in harms way somewhere in the world.)

Please pray for our troops…and our president. Pray for wisdom that he would do what needs to be done and make the best decisions concerning our country and troops.

Not really how I expected to kick off the new year, but I felt like this needed to be said.

Until next time…

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