BEING A STAY-AT-HOME-MOM
It can be a thankless job. It can be overwhelming. There is no time off, no sick days, and no monetary pay…but I love being a stay-at-home-mom.
It’s actually not something I ever planned to be, but there were a number of factors that contributed to me staying home with the kids. It’s kind of worked out perfectly.
The timing of our first child’s birth lined directly up with our first PCS (permanent change of station) from Georgia to New York. At the time, I worked for a bank in customer service. I had graduated from college two years prior and my plan had been to work up until birth, take my six to eight weeks of maternity leave and then put Jacqueline in day care and return to work. That’s not how God planned it. Knowing that we were moving I applied for some banking positions and even some other positions in our new state (that I was certainly qualified for) but never even got a call for an interview.
It didn’t make me feel very good about myself. I wanted to contribute to the family. What I didn’t realize then was that I was contributing and I continue to contribute in a major way.
THE EXPENSE OF WORKING
Child care is expensive! Like, really expensive. With what I would make, we would most likely break even between the cost of child care, wear and tear on the car, and gas. So why would I pay for someone else to raise my babies when I can do it myself? Our time with them is so short, and I can assure as hard as raising kids is, I would rather deal with them than the general public.😂
It would have also been very difficult to have a child in therapy, know what they’re working on, and help her. Also, asking off for doctors appointments for her would have been a nightmare…and it would have continued to be a nightmare. We’re going on a decade now of lots of therapy and doctors appointments. I know that sometimes people HAVE to work outside the home, but I have no idea how they do it with a child who has special needs.
THE BENEFITS OF THE MILITARY
While being a military family has its downsides (separation for long periods of time, long work hours, stupid rules, and deployments to name a few) it has some real positives. One of the biggest pros of being a military family is a steady paycheck and full medical benefits. Yes, working with Tricare sometimes can be frustrating, but they do pay for things. I don’t have to be the one who works to get our medical paid. My husband has been able to provide for us. He’s worked odd jobs over the last 15 years to make extra to help out.
Joe is an amazing provider for our family. In fact, I would say that is probably his greatest strength within our family. He is the hardest working man I know or have ever known. He never stops providing for our family. With the world the way it is today, and men often times not willing to step up and actually be a man, I’m grateful for my husband and his willingness to provide.
PROVIDING MORE THAN MONEY
Not too long ago, I was feeling down on myself. I felt I wasn’t enough and that I wasn’t contributing enough to the family. (Mostly monetarily.) I shared this with Joe and he reassured me that it was his job. He also said if I do happen to contribute more financially that it’s just icing on the cake, so to speak…that the kids are well taken care of and loved and that I had done a great job doing that. Sometimes, you just need to hear that you’re enough. As a stay-at-home mom, you are more than enough. It’s a tough and often thankless job, but it will give back in love, hugs, kisses, and sweet memories as the children grow.
I haven’t had to miss any milestones. I’ve been there for first words, first steps, first everything. I’m blessed to be able to do it, and if you’re able to do it at all, I cannot recommend it enough.
In life, we are given time. I’m grateful for the time I’ve been able to spend with the most precious gifts God has ever given me, and I love being a stay-at-home mom.🥰
Until next time, friends…