It’s hard to believe that my husband and I have spent the last 13 years together. After a whirlwind dating period (5 months with him gone 3 of them and only meeting in person maybe a total of 2 weeks) I found myself “proposing” to my husband. The week before Valentine’s Day my husband was driving back from leave visiting his parents in New Hampshire. We were chatting and it went something like this: “I’d like to ask you something, but I don’t know how to ask you.” His response, “Just ask.” My response, “I was wondering…maybe…we could…should…I don’t know…maybe….Um…get married before you deploy again?” He said, “Sure. When do you want to do it?”…I don’t know. He decided Valentine’s Day it should be.
A Few Bumps In The Road
So there were a few issues: 1. We hadn’t been dating that long so we didn’t want to tell our parents. We didn’t want them to try to stop us. 2. My car had been in an accident and my rental car period was up, so a friend from school drove me home so I could pick up my mom’s car and drive it to Savannah to marry the man of my dreams. lol 3. Making arrangements that quickly was a little stressful. As a college student, I didn’t have a lot of cash so no dress and nothing elaborate. Just me calling a pastor to do the service. (Having a wedding done by a pastor of the Christian faith was important to me.) We also had to find out the requirements for the State of Georgia to get married. I had a babysitting job the Thursday before, and I planned on leaving that night when the couple got home…I was ready!
The Big Day
So I arrived about 0300 on Friday the 13th of February to Joe’s barracks. We slept and got up a few hours later to get our marriage license. Joe thought we should just “go ahead and do it” since I was already there. We called the preacher and asked if we could move the date, and he said we could. I think we were supposed to do it at 1600 and even told his buddies about it, but thought that no one would show up so we just went ahead and did it. We didn’t have a lot of money at the time, and the preacher asked us if we wanted a little ceremony or just for him to sign the license. When we told him we didn’t have money for a ceremony he took pity on us and did everything for FREE. What a sweet man!
Thirteen Years Later
Of all the years we’ve been together, I think we’ve actually been able to celebrate together on or near the date of our anniversary half of the time due to the Army either deployments or travel for him. So this year, since we’re doing Dave Ramsey’s “Financial Peace University” I decided that I’m a good cook, we have a neighbor who’s a chef…Why can’t I just cook at home? So I did. And it turned out beautifully and delicious. The kids were fed early and sent to our oldest’s room to watch a movie. Surprisingly, they stayed in there most the time and left us alone so we could have our special dinner. Here are some pictures for that night:
I really dressed up…
All-in-all, it was a terrific evening, and I would love to do it again just for a date night. It was pretty great! Want to see more of our little life? Be sure to follow me on Instagram and Facebook. Just look for Kelley Bouchard.