Body After Baby: Your “New” Body
Your body after baby is very different than your pre pregnancy body. Dressing for the body you have, not had really can be difficult after having children. I know we’ve all seen the women who bounce right back after pregnancy and don their skinny jeans the day they take baby home from the hospital, but those ladies are the exception, not the rule. It’s easy to hold a grudge against them, but it’s not their fault their genetically gifted. So you’ve just caught a glimpse of your post partum body…and you’re horrified! Maybe that’s not you, but I can tell you I’ve looked at my post partum body after three pregnancies and cried each time.
So What’s A Mama To Do?
Well, first, I think we need to be a little kinder to ourselves. I’m sure hormones are playing a part in how you feel about your body, and I know no one is judging you as harshly as you’re judging yourself. (We’re always our toughest critic!) You long to feel “normal” again. I’m not trying to be the bearer of bad news, but you will never feel quite your old “normal” again, but you can find your new normal and in many ways it can be better! So focus on the things you can control. Maternity clothes are okay after you give birth for a while. In fact, be prepared to wear them. It’s okay. Almost all of us moms have had to do this.
You may have to ask your husband about this and setting an appropriate budget, but (most husbands are more than willing to help their wives feel better after becoming moms) see if you can go shopping for a few new pieces for your wardrobe. Take a good friend who will be 100% honest with you. (My husband is brutally honest with me. He’s the one who encouraged me to lose weight. This topic has actually made some women mad, but had he not been honest with me I could have continued lying to myself about needing to lose weight.) Go with what feels comfortable, but resist the urge to buy larger clothes than you need. This can look frumpy. I know, cause I totally did this! Also, don’t go with your “goal”. I think that’s self explanatory. You can work toward that goal, but don’t spend money on it now. You can reward yourself once you achieve that goal with that cute outfit!
A Different Body
I can only speak from my personal experience and those shared with me by my friends, but your body WILL be different. Even if you can get back to your pre-pregnancy weight, things are just…different. A few things changed for me: my hips actually got more narrow. I used Shrinx Hips right after babies 2 and 3. (And lost a lot of body fat!) Boy did it make a difference, AND it helped with hip pain. My boobs….sigh….my sad, sad boobs. There’s nothing left of them. I liken them to deflated balloons. They’ll never be the same again. I haven’t really been able to find a bra that I like and has made me happy. It’s a lot of trial and error with clothing.
A Better Body
While my body is very different, in many ways I like it more than I did before. I’m not sure if it’s because of age and I’m more comfortable with myself, or if it’s because I have a ton more muscle so I’m way stronger than I was prior to having kids, but I really do like my body. If I could get rid of the stretch marks and saggy balloons on my chest I’d be all set. lol I got my better and stronger body because for the first time in my life I dedicated myself to working out and eating well. No crash diets. Nothing crazy…and six years after starting and a pregnancy in between I’ve been able to comfortably maintain a healthy weight and BMI. It’s not impossible and I believe all who are willing are capable of achieving permanent weight loss.
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